Saturday, October 6, 2018

Bold Love



(Scriptures: Esther 7:1-10; 9:20-22; Psalm 124; James 5:1-20, Mark 9:35-50)
Our Gospel reading this week is Jesus at his least warm and fuzzy.  Last week’s gospel ended with Jesus cradling a small child in his arms and teaching his disciples that to welcome such a child was to welcome him, and ultimately to welcome God.  Though it wasn’t part of this week’s reading, I decided to start there in order to make the connection to this week’s reading.  This week Jesus gives us visions of millstones around necks, dismembered hands and hellfire – the stuff of nightmares.  And yet, ultimately it is part of the good news of Jesus Christ.
"If any of you put a stumbling-block before one of these little ones who believe in me, it would be better for you if a great millstone were hung around your neck and you were thrown into the sea.”, Jesus told his disciples.  The Greek word translated here as “put a stumbling block before” is skandalise, from which come English words such as “scandal” and “scandalize”.  So Jesus is telling his disciples not to cause scandal that would cause “these little ones” – children or other vulnerable persons – to lose faith. 
In last week’s reading, Jesus told his disciples to welcome children.   While this week’s reading contains vivid and even brutal imagery, it’s ultimately about creating safety so that children and other vulnerable persons can truly feel welcome – after all, how can we feel welcome and secure when we’re under attack.  Parents can be very gentle with their children, and yet very aggressive and even physically threatening – in a word, fierce -  toward anyone who threatens harm to their children – and this is appropriate.  Love can be both gentle and fierce – they are two sides of the same coin, so to speak.  Jesus is saying that God’s love for us is like that – gentle toward children and toward all who are vulnerable and disadvantaged, yet fierce toward those who would abuse and exploit the vulnerable.
The words of Scripture are powerful, and have a way of appearing in unexpected places.  As it happens, the verse about the millstone was quoted on page 129 of the Pennsylvania Grand Jury report on abuse of children by Roman Catholic clergy.  A priest for the Diocese of Greensburg, accused of having abused roughly three dozen underage males, had testified to the grand jury that he had no idea his actions had caused significant harm.  The attorney for the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania responded:  You didn't know that Scripture itself says it is better to put a millstone around your neck and be cast into the sea than harm a child?”  And  the priest acknowledged remembering that verse, even though he ignored it through the course of his ministry – as did hundreds of other priests and bishops in Pennsylvania alone.[1]
We live in a time of scandal, a time in which we see all too much of humanity at our worst.  For children abused by clergy, their sense of violation is compounded by the teaching instilled in them that the abusive clergy stand in for God.  And so those who are abused feel betrayed and violated, not only by the offending clergy, not only by the church, but by God.   The faith of many who have been abused is thus destroyed; many can hardly bring themselves to enter a church, even if only for a wedding or a funeral.  And it goes without saying that parents who had been abused as children are unlikely to bring their children up in the church, to subject them to the same abuse they’d experienced.  And so the effects of clergy abuse of children are not only devastating to the abused, but they are generational, as children and grandchildren are lost to the church. 
It goes without saying that abusive clergy don’t walk around with horns or tails or other obvious markers indicating their depravity – they can hide in plain sight, so to speak.  Decades ago I was acquainted with an elderly Roman Catholic priest, now deceased, whose name later appeared in the 2005 Philadelphia grand jury report.  I had no inkling of his activities.  I know that this issue hits close to home, as abusive priests have served parishes in Bridesburg and in Port Richmond.  And this problem is not unique to Roman Catholic clergy – it cuts across all denominations.  In the United Church of Christ, as in many mainline protestant churches, there are measures to prevent such abuse – psychological testing of candidates for ministry and regular boundary training sessions for clergy serving churches.  And yet there is a lot of pain out there, and a lot of healing that has yet to occur.
We also live in the time of the #Metoo movement.  I, for one, welcome it.  And I’d like us to consider our reading from Esther from the standpoint of the women in the story.  A summary of the book of Esther up to today’s reading may be helpful.  There was a king, who had a queen by the name of Vashti.  On one fateful day, when the king was in his cups, he ordered Vashti, his queen, to “display her beauty” to the king’s courtiers; that is to say, to put her body on display for a bunch of leering, half-drunk men.  Vashti put her foot down and told the king that she would do no such thing.  And the king threw a royal temper tantrum.  He consulted his advisors, who counseled that if Vashti’s refusal was allowed to stand, all the women of the realm would stand up to their husbands, and of course they couldn’t have that – and so, on their advice, the king banished Vashti from his presence – which, while hard on her purse, probably gave Vashti a much saner life. 
After the king’s royal temper tantrum had subsided, he missed Vashti, and went on the prowl for a new queen to replace her.  A sort of national beauty contest was held, which Esther, a Jew, won.  Her uncle Mordecai had apprised her of threats against the Jewish people by one of king’s officials whose name was Haman.  Haman had issued orders on the king’s behalf for the destruction of the Jewish people.  Queen Esther took her life into her hands, came out as a Jew, told the king about Haman’s plot – and the Jewish people in the realm were saved.
While it’s quite a story, it’s notable that none of this would have happened had the king listened to Vashti, his first wife.  The king could have done the decent thing in accepting his wife’s refusal to put herself on display.  He could have listened to his wife. But he didn’t.  And he considered her expendable, someone he could beckon or banish at a whim, with no autonomy or control over her own life.  He did listen to Esther, though – perhaps his experience with Vashti taught him something.  But in speaking to the king, Esther took her own life in her hands – as she told her uncle, “if I perish, I perish”. 
In the story, the Jewish people were saved because a woman, at great risk to herself, spoke up to her husband about the threat she was under.  Today, a number of women are speaking up about the harassment and worse that have marked their lives.   Women are telling stories, decades old, about how they’ve been harassed and assaulted in the work place and elsewhere.  Three days ago, my mom – age 83 – told me about a male co-worker of hers decades ago, in the 1970’s, when she worked as a stenographer, who pressured her for services that were not a part of any written job description.   She spoke of how she timed her arrivals and departures at work, her restroom breaks, her routes from one office to another, to avoid running into this coworker, particularly when she was alone.  Yet she didn’t speak up, because she was afraid of losing her job, a job that helped to support my sister and me.  Not exactly the conversation I’d anticipated having with my 83 year old mother, but there we were. While my mom has told me lots of harrowing stories over the years about her work life, I had only heard parts of this story before.  It struck me, the elaborate strategies and tactics my mom used in order to avoid harassment.  And it struck me that as a male, I’ve never in my life had to give a moment’s thought to similar precautions for myself. 
Yesterday, downtown, there was a rally against rape.  I took the train downtown and attended, wearing my collar.  There were counter-protestors – religious counter-protesters.  it’s hard for me to imagine anyone speaking up for rapists, but these counter-protestors loudly proclaimed, claiming to speak for God no less, that women who were raped deserved it because of how they dressed, or because they allowed themselves to get drunk in places where men were present.   I walked over to join a group blocking off the counter-protesters from the main rally.  As I stood there, holding a sign saying, “No means no”, an elderly African American woman walked over to me.  She took one of my hands and held it between hers, told me how much the counter-protesters had offended and upset her, and told me how much it meant for her to see me there with my collar and my sign, as a witness that the counter-protestors didn’t speak for all clergy or all Christians.   
Jesus said, “If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life maimed than to have two hands and to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life lame than to have two feet and to be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, tear it out; it is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and to be thrown into hell, where their worm never dies, and the fire is never quenched.”  These words of Jesus sound over-the-top crazy – and indeed, they’re not meant to be taken literally – but they are a strong call for offenders to take responsibility for their own actions and for the consequences.  Jesus didn’t say, “If your eye tempts you to sin, force the women around you to wear burlap sacks.”   For Jesus, the responsibility is on the harasser to change his ways, not on those around him to vary their routines, as my mom did 40 years ago.
In speaking out to her husband, Esther showed a bold love for her people, and was willing to risk her life on their behalf.  Jesus also calls us to a bold love in protecting children and the vulnerable, and speaking out against any who would threaten them.  May God grant us courage to speak the truth in love. Amen.


[1] 40th Statewide Investigating Grand Jury, Report 1, Interim – Redacted, p. 129 
http://media-downloads.pacourts.us/InterimRedactedReportandResponses.pdf?cb=22148

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